Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.I got the slip just in time to watch the guy who put it through my letterbox get in his van, look me in the eye and drive off.FMLToday, while reading the newspaper, I noticed that an ad had been placed for my job.I asked my boss for a week off so that I could fly home for my father's funeral. FMLToday, I thought I was being a good worker by showing a mother and daughter several rooms before they settled on one.Turns out Mommy dearest only wanted a place for her brat to throw a party. This from the people who complained about a loose chair arm.
FMLToday, I received a slip through my door saying that the package I'd ordered couldn't be delivered today because no-one was home to sign for it.
I got a call immediately after finishing my shift to be told the company has "decided to go in a different direction" and will no longer be needing my services.
If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at
For example, if you'd like him to meet your parents, ask if he'd be up for going out to dinner with them, but let him know there's no harm if he's not quite ready for that yet.
You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure. Bottom line: Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. 1 piece of advice is to never to bring up the "What are we? "It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights, and asking, 'Are we all having a good time here? "A good relationship is built on momentum, and putting a stop to the fun to 'check in' is a surefire way to kill the romance."Let things progress naturally and look at the evidence: Does he try to see you whenever he's free?
Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though.