(c) Mark Goulston Blog Author, you take an almost too extreme stand against affairs.
I have a very good reason for dating a married man...we're in love.
It happened before we were each separated/divorced.
We were both in overbearing, underloving marriages.
We found each other and have been in love for many many years.
And......we're far from being the only ones in this situation.
You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. As appreciative as he sounds, many women who are involved with married men come to resent his having the best of both worlds, when she has the least. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? At some level, he's going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Despite his reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife in an above-board and respectful way -- and not beginning a legitimate relationship with you -- are actions that speak louder than words. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?a.k.a He'll NEVER stay that into you There are no positive reasons for dating a married man.Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing.
If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these 10 truths before you leap: 1. A man who is in a very unhappy or unsatisfying marriage can feel swept away by how wonderful you make him feel.
He may even blurt out, "I've never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you." This may sound like a commitment to a future with you. Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his loving you and making a commitment to you. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like.