This post originally appeared on How About We’s blow The Date Report.
One of the most frequently asked questions in the world of dating has got to be “If they’re not your significant other, then what the hell are they?
You find you have lots of things to say to each other, and before you know it, half an hour has gone by. The First Time You Talk About Your Exes Everyone knows not to mention an ex on a first (or second, or third) date, but eventually the subject is bound to come up.
It’s not just physical: you two are in serious like. The First Time You See Each Other Really Drunk You accompany them to a party, they overdo it, you take them home, they get sick, then sad, then wild, then pass out…and you still like them the next morning? Talking about each other’s exes and dating histories shows that you care about a person enough to hear all the gory details of their dating life. Seeing Each Other Sick Being sick means feeling tired, vulnerable, crabby, and gross.
Letting someone see you when you feel that way, (and conversely not being turned-off by seeing someone that way) is a sign that things are getting serious. The First Time You Just Go To Sleep We’ve already established that sharing a bed with someone sucks. The First Fight You’re comfortable enough to express discontent or frustration with each other — and committed enough to not just walk away.
If you’re willingly doing that, and you’re not even hooking up? The first time you fight, and survive, you can rest assured that both of you are committed to seeing where this relationship takes you.
Seeing each other naked naked for the first time, unbrushed hair, blotchy skin, stubble, and, for women, without make-up, means you’re pretty darn comfortable with each other. The First Time You Call Just To Talk Maybe you called about something else, or to schedule a date, or to check up on something.But then, once this information is exchanged, you don’t immediately hang up.