Nagy offers her own experiences dating men in recovery and shares stories of couples embarking on the 12 steps together. Q: Do you believe certain types of people are drawn to those in recovery?The Tribune recently spoke to her by phone about her new book. Q: What common misconceptions about people in recovery do you dispel? A: I think people who come from addictive families are used to the patterns they see in people in recovery.For some, discovering that your new love interest is in recovery for alcoholism or drug addiction might be a red flag. When she first started dating a man in recovery, she welcomed the challenge to be by his side on his path to sobriety.But as their relationship evolved, Nagy desperately wanted advice from someone who had walked in her shoes.(The book's publisher, Hazelden, operates treatment centers across the U.S.) The title references those in Alcoholics Anonymous, who often call themselves "Friends of Bill W.," in reference to Bill Wilson, the co-founder of AA.
She remembers being unable to find a resource, so she decided to write her own book, "[Girl] Friend of Bill: 12 Things You Need to Know About Dating Someone in Recovery" (Hazelden).It's essentially a manual for people not in recovery who are either dating or married to those who are.