You experience wholeness, higher self-esteem, avoid dangerous or deadly diseases, and you ultimately value your body. Not only is not everyone doing it, and not only is it not possible to get pregnant, and not only will it bring us closer together, but they’ve got great responses to all of those lies.
Third, and most honestly, I just like books that go deeper, and practical dating books are not in that category.
However, we started using this book for our high school curriculum, crafting and writing material around the basic framework and commandments, and I’ve been thankful for the resource.
Fundamental principle: dating is not (and should never become) your life. Don’t fall into a myriad of dysfunctional relationship patterns that are marked by an imbalance of quality in character. The balance of “responsibility” is a challenging one in any relationship.
Not only ought we recognize and value our emotions and body as only “owned” by us, but how does one strive towards intimacy, which requires becoming responsible for someone else. Boundaries, ultimately healthy and necessary, but delicate and difficult to discern. Because of the Christian flavor, this is an “open and shut” case for the authors; “God said so…now here’s why.” Their reasons?
Sometimes I wish we would focus more on the driving truths of reality, and apply them to practical situations, rather than address practical situations from which we grab at various truths of reality. Second, the Bible is often proof-texted after-the-fact.
In other words, the principles are decided upon, and then Scriptures are sought out to substantiate the pre-determined principles.