Things are more equal here and men are brought up to respect women.Give them a sign of your interest (or 2) and they will take it from there.Likely you would meet out at bars/clubs with friends, then start hanging out at home having dinner, watching movies, etc.*Note: It is also not assumed here that the man will pay for these things.It is equal here and women like to pay their own way* 3. If you are just "friends with benefits" it is quite obvious and would be discussed early on.Normally, if you see someone on a regular basis when sober (this is an important distinction here), even only once a week, it is assumed that you only see each other. Maybe you go for fika (coffee) or dinner a few times, but it is not the norm.To Swedes this feels very formal and more like an interrogation.Attitudes toward sex are very, very relaxed for men and women. People often have sex first, then decide if they want to see each other.3.
Otherwise, enjoy the evening with your friends, because you won't be harrassed (this is easily mistaken for lack of interest if you don't know the rules). Even if a guy does approach you, with or without encouragement, there is a 95% chance that he is not buying you a drink.If he does, he is probably not Swedish or has lived in another country fairly recently.4.So yesterday I hosted a baby shower for my friend Kristiina, and had a discussion with the Swedish girls present about this topic.Honestly it was more like a class for me since I was the only girl not from Scandinavia at the party! Men do not bother you or approach you randomly or at all, even at bars (usually).
Dating and mating rules in Sweden are very confusing for an American.
The longer you are here, the more confusing it gets.