But that is not likely to happen when his first impression is that you are a liar who wasted his perfectly good happy hour with your manipulation. While there are so many unrealistic expectations of women to maintain a certain body type, lying about your body type only sets back the movement. The second you start lying, you shame yourself and you block your ability to find love.
Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online. “We talk every night on the phone and it is frightening how much we have in common.
I hope I don’t screw it up.” Fast forward a few days: “She was much larger in person than her online pics lead on.
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Not gonna happen.” Because he’s a nice guy, Marc’s telling of the scenario was polite.
I’ve heard the same story — usually not as kindly — from lots and lots of guys. Of course people lie in their online dating profiles every day of the week: Men say they’re younger and richer. ] Now, I get that you’re not feeling good in your body.
I know exactly what you tell yourself: a) “Those pictures really are me, so it’s not a lie.” b) “Dating profiles are advertising, and advertising always shines the most flattering light on a product.” c) “He just gets to know me and then he’ll fall for the real me — which has nothing to do with how I look.” a), b) and c) — all lies you’re telling yourself, sweetie. Yes, you should depict yourself in the best possible light — but the SEC has laws against misleading advertising for a reason. If you live in a big market like I do — New York City — there are so many people, and so many classically people.
Re: c) — your looks have everything to do with how a guy feels about you. Men are far more visually driven than women for all kinds of anthropological, biological and cultural reasons. Yes, there are times when men fall in love with a woman who is completely not his physical type because her beautiful soul shined so brightly that it blinded him to her overt physical shortcomings. How can you connect with a guy in person when they won’t even click on your profile pic? But misleading a guy into dating you isn’t the solution — and it only perpetuates the societal message that only thin chicks are datable.