Given these statistics, if you are a single adult, it would not be surprising that you find yourself attracted to someone who has children.
Census, in 2010 there were close to 12 million single-family households in America.
As you read through these suggestions, remember that children come in all ages and some may not even live at home.
The tips below will help you thread your way through some of the intricacies of dating a single parent. Ask yourself: Am I willing to be in a relationship with someone who has children? Am I willing to enter into a relationship with children?
As an educator, Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages.
If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.
It will save everyone a lot of angst if you simply ask your date and openly discuss how you can help make this a positive experience for all concerned. This may sound like a covert operation, but if you find you are uncomfortable with or disapproving of these things, this may not be a situation that is compatible for you. Everyone will feel much more at ease when the new person in mommy or daddy’s life is kind, sincere, and genuinely caring. They may worry that dad or mom doesn’t love them as much as before or that they are lacking in some way. Once you have managed to thread your way through some of these obstacles that are inherent when dating a single parent, relax and enjoy the experience.
Depending on their background, kids may be fearful of a newcomer in their midst. Simply understand these feelings may exist and that it is not about you. Children can add a lot of delight and gratification to a relationship.
If you answered YES to Tip #1, you are a special person who likely has a great deal to bring to the relationship.
Navigating the next steps with compassion, good nature, and a sense of humor will help assure that the experience is joyful and fulfilling. Mary Jayne Rogers is an Exercise Physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness and fitness education and instruction.
Like most young women, I'd had plenty of dates that never went anywhere, and some memorable ones that eventually blossomed into relationships.