How many red flags do you need in order to run away and save yourself? Time will tell, his mask will drop, that is why he is pushing for commitment, he wants to hook you before you see the real person under the facade. By themselves they don’t scream “Run for cover” , especially if you have no experience with a narcissist, but if you have half a dozen of these red flags you need to run away as fast as you can and if you can’t bring yourself to dump him because you think he is an exception to the rule and you don’t believe me; at least slow things down.He is arming his arsenal with ammo for later down the road to use against you.By sharing some of his faults he makes you think he is honest, why would he lie about something insignificant when he was so honest about that? They are seldom alone for long, and will still be in a relationship or just leaving one, they will say the relationship was over long ago but their ex won’t let go, they feel responsible for them etc.My ex said that when he left one of his ex’s she shouldn’t have been surprised because they hadn’t slept together for months prior.I thought yeah, who wouldn’t know the relationship was over if you aren’t sleeping together.
They have so many of the same interests, love everything you love, wine and dine you, they can’t get enough of you, more than likely it is the most romantic relationship you have ever had. He wants to know everything about you, is very interested in learning about your childhood, your hopes and dreams, your past relationships. Well, let me give you a few, 30 to be exact; dead give-aways you are dating a Narcissist.If he is what he says he is, it will show over time and he won’t mind waiting.(That is until he stopped sleeping with me a year or 2 into the relationship and kept telling me he loved me and I was being overly sensitive and paranoid) 5. Taking you to mutual friends of his ex’s, (if possible he will use you are a pawn to hurt his ex.) Quickly takes you to meet the family.
He will reveal a few of his indiscretions and weaknesses so you feel safe being open and honest with him.He wants to get to know you alright, just not for the reason you think.