She understood the limits of online dating and that meeting people in real life through mutual connections lends itself more to long-term success.We discussed explicitly what I was looking for in a partner and I also filled out a lengthy questionnaire detailing the same specifications.Which is why, when I heard about a friend who tried a matchmaker (yes, an actual, kind-you-see-in-movies matchmaker), I thought, "What the hell?"After asking around, I decided to use a Toronto-based service called Six Degrees Introductions founded by self-proclaimed matchmaker Julie Ritchie.It's kind of old-fashioned, but that's what I liked about it.Julie and I met over coffee and had a lengthy interview.But most importantly, we talked about deal breakers.Honestly, it's not dissimilar to what you might specify online (or to your best friends when they want to set you up).
Clients are by referral only; you're ostensibly introduced to a potential mate by someone you know.
Dates that made me cringe in the moment—and then continue to cringe for days afterward.
I was tired of dipping my toe into the miasma of online dating.
Another guy found out I was a labor lawyer and our "date" suddenly turned into him pumping me for free legal advice.
One date showed up wearing a shirt with a popped button that allowed his belly to hang out.For me, the big two were smoking and having an acrimonious relationship with an ex partner; both are personal red flags.