So why, Ellen, would you take your quest to the land of apartment scams and Ikea dressers?
Surprisingly, she says, people are more honest there. Ellen has dabbled in online dating for almost two decades. And for a few years, I had profiles on Match and J-Date up at the same time.” Ellen's voice is warm and inviting. But as anyone who has spent more than five minutes in the dating scene knows, finding a true partner can be like searching for Waldo (as in “Where’s? And Waldo, Ellen says, was not on any of the dating sites she signed up for.
No, not by speed dating or being set up by friends or meeting a real-life matchmaker, but through Craigslist — the online classified section whose layout and functionality have been largely the same since its debut in 1995. I'm not a Victoria's Secret model but I am told I'm cute/pretty and have a sense of humor and am slim. I've tried online sites and am tired of looking at profiles with guys wearing hats and sunglasses. Seeking single/divorced/widowed professional funny, friendly male mensch for friendship/companionship and eventual romance in Manhattan. I enjoy reading and writing and am working on a book. Seeking someone drug-free and truthful and reliable. And Ellen's age group is what Pew calls a thinning market; Ellen, who has been riding the dating train since she was 44, has also seen the stigma of online dating disappear.
She has actually been a fan of Craigslist for years. Her dating advice for others is simple: “If you listen, he’ll tell you who he really is.
If you're invested, the result of that betrayal can be heartbreaking.
It's a risk you take when you decide to get romantically involved with someone, she understands, but if that's what you're going to end up with, why would you willingly pay a monthly fee to get it? It’s clear what this guy’s about and I delete it.” She calls the entire experience of Craigslist dating “low stakes,” informing me that the “best of Craigslist” section is prime material for acting teachers who need to gather unique monologues for their classes.
“I've tried online sites and am tired of looking at profiles with guys wearing hats and sunglasses. The 61-year-old Manhattanite recently posted a personal ad to Craigslist in an attempt to get one step closer to a “warm male mensch.” You may be wondering, why Craigslist? After a cursory Google search, it's clear there are plenty of dating sites tailor-made for the over-50 crowd, not to mention the dozens created for the twenty-and-thirty-somethings. She’s, by her own definition, a DWJF — divorced, white, Jewish female — and she’s looking for romance.