After all, you need to learn to crawl before you run.
On Monday, we talked about how the key to learning any new skill is to deconstruct it.You want to break the skill – whether it’s playing guitar, learning a new language or even dating – into its core components.Worth noting (since somebody will bring it up in the comments) is that the mistakes that hold you back aren’t about technique (leaning in when talking to people, too much physical contact) or planning (forgetting to check logistics). Before you even approach someone or sit down at your first date, these are the problems that make dating so much more difficult than it needs to be. You see, when you’re clever and you know it, you’re more likely to actually make things more complicated then they truly are. Clearly it’s too obvious, therefore there has to be something we’re not seeing…♦◊♦ One of the perils of being a geek is that we live in our own heads. We tend to assume that things are always more than they seem whether it’s an SAT question – “That comparison of cow is to goat as BLANK is to BLANK can’t just be because they’re land mammals… This is never more clear than when you see someone playing “Does she like me or not?
maybe it’s because they’re both domesticated and give milk… ” They start reading the tea leaves, examining a woman’s behavior as though it were the Zapruder film, looking for tiny clues that would give us insight into what she really means when she says she’s busy that weekend.This causes many people no end of anxiety, especially those who are worried about being creepy by accident.