“I’ve been married for four years but we’ve been together for 12. “The first time, it made me realise there is more out there, life doesn’t have to be miserable. We could be having the best holiday but she always finds something to worry about. She says the children are a chore but they’re not, they’re a joy. He heard about the site through a friend who he says used it to cheat on his wife a staggering 40 times. What struck me from both meetings and the many emails is that not one expressed any pangs of guilt.
Within minutes I had five messages and as many ‘winks’. Many were looking for ‘dirty chat’ without ever intending to meet me.
Others were clearly looking for a one-off notch on the bedpost. Most didn’t reveal their jobs, some didn’t write anything at all while others were upfront – “Married and planning to stay that way.
They all suggested areas near to where they worked in different parts of central London, but none asked which area would be convenient for me.
Once we’d established an area, they left it to me to suggest a venue.
Donning a fake wedding ring to appear married and wearing a summer dress and low heels, I greeted Robert, a 39-year-old events organiser at an outdoor cafe on the South Bank. “The dynamic changed between me and my wife after the children. "I’ve never cheated since the kids came along but I had an odd fling or two with an ex before we married.” So what prompted him to even look for a site like this?
Well-spoken, charming and trim, he revealed he was married with two children under eight. “I’d been thinking of joining for a while but I wouldn’t do anything that might jeopardise us or to make her suspect. Last week I shipped her and the kids off to South Africa so this is my window of opportunity.” I couldn’t resist asking him how he would feel if his wife did the same. “I know that’s hypocritical and I know that sounds a b****** thing to say but it’s a male pride thing.” When I meet my next ‘date’, Brian, a 46-year-old who works in construction, I pretend to be feeling guilty about our clandestine tryst outside a restaurant off Oxford Street, thinking he might confess to feeling the same. “I’ve had three affairs before so I don’t feel bad any more,” he shrugged. I deserve to have some fun.” Brian has been married for 14 years and has two school-age children. Every time we sit down there’s a pathetic dispute about something,” he complains.
His photo shows him in a white shirt, leaning against a hotel wall. ” quips another 32-year-old who has posted a photo of his bare torso. Slipping into an affair is bad enough, but who would be so calculated as to go looking?
Waiting for you,” writes 52-year-old John who claims to be an office manager. Men pay £30 a month but it’s free for women to use.