Spring for a pair of cute and affordable gloves from, say, J. DON’T: Run out and buy him a new Barbour coat, a set of Kastle skis, or a 100% real mink trapper hat. Nothing’s better than a homemade batch of holiday cookies or brownies. DO: Plan a gift you can do together—like tickets to a concert, exhibition, or a play.
DON’T: Planning it for months and months and months in advance. Likewise, don’t be that girl and book a romantic weekend at that adorable B&B upstate.
DON’T: Treat him to a 9-course dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant, and present him with a bottle of Glenmorangie Pride 1981.
DO: Get him a gift that’s reflective of something topical you’ve discussed. Get him a book of one of your favorite modern artists. Get him a new cooking gadget, a new cookbook you know he doesn’t have, or gift card to a specialty food store.
Maybe you’ve determined that he’s officially your boyfriend, or you’re still delicately dancing around the subject.
At any rate, it’s a bitch to figure out what’s appropriate and what’s completely insane in the giving department.
—but you’re not sure what the going rate is on Christmas gifts.
Maybe you’re a few weeks in, or a couple months in.
DO: Make him a cool winter Spotify playlist with songs you’re digging right now, and an i Tunes gift card.DON’T: Make him a mix of the sappiest love songs of all time, get him front-row seats at a sold-out concert, or buy him 0 wireless Beats by Dre headphones.DO: Notice he’s been walking around without proper winter gear?Obviously, you don’t want to go too big, yet you don’t want to not give anything at all. DO: Get him a subscription to Netflix if he mentioned he’d like to start binge-watching “Narcos.” DON’T: Buy him a shiny new flat-screen to watch it on.
The goal: a gift that manages to say “I-like-you-but-we’re-still-getting-to-know-each-other-and-that’s-totally-cool.” It also pays to understand that a small present—something thoughtful, semi-personal, and affordable—is the way to go when you’re dating a brand-new guy. DO: Take him out to dinner, maybe for a drink after.
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