(ESFP, ISFP, ENFP, INFP) All TJs use the mental process “Effectiveness” to make decisions.
(ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, INTJ) All TPs use the mental process “Accuracy” to make decisions.
In any romantic or pair bond relationship, there are myriad ways that a couple communicates to each other. we’re looking for and sending endless signals to and from our mate.
And while there are a million things each person says (both verbally and non-verbally) every day, it could be argued that there really is only one thing we’re actually looking for: the answer to the question, “Do you love me?
” According to Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages” we all express love a little differently.
In Chapman’s model, the 5 primary ways are: (For a quick reference listen to the Personality Hacker podcast “The 5 Love Languages.” For more in-depth information, read Chapman’s book of the same title.
It’s a great read – we highly recommend it.) These are five very important modalities of communicating love, and knowing which one you and your mate favor can make or break the relationship.
That said, while we communicate love in different ways, we are also looking for very specific markers that transcend the form of communication – we’re looking for specific criteria which means love to different types.
For example, we might have a “Words of Affirmation” Love Language and we’ll always feel good when someone praises us. Does it match our internal ‘list’ of important things?
For example, one woman might be over to moon to hear her husband praise her beauty to his friends, and another woman might feel marginalized. ” Here’s where it gets tricky: each personality type asks it in a slightly different way, and concurrently answers it in a slightly different way.