You’re talking about that person you’re dating, and suddenly a descriptor pops out of your mouth that sounds a bit off.Or alternately, someone asks you about your “boyfriend” or “partner" ... Regardless of whether you have a word that you love to use for the people you date or you have a short list of tolerable options, the reality is there are some options out there from which to choose.I don't love "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" because I date adults damnit!My mom's always trying to get me to use "main squeeze" which I think is delightful and hilarious but has never quite caught on." "I notice that I tend to shift the way I talk about my significant other depending on the community I'm talking to and how serious or silly I'm feeling.
I hated using "boyfriend/girlfriend" by then because (a) it sounded juvenile to me, (b) it connoted a lower level of commitment then what I felt at the time, and (c) I am not a big fan of having to declare my partner's gender when it's not directly relevant to the conversation.I complained about this once to my dad, and together we came up with "life buddy" as a suitable, commitment-appropriate, gender-neutral term. My partner and I even ended up incorporating the term into our wedding vows (as well as "accountabilibuddy," which we lovingly appropriated from South Park).