And he was given a schedule showing how the money was going to be decreased each month until it was no longer available. But slowly it started to work and today he is self-supporting and not doing drugs.
This lead us to an obvious conclusion: there are a lot of parents out there searching for ways to extricate themselves from the manipulative clutches of their addicted, adult children. How do parents who dearly loves their addicted sons or daughters best help their children?
Do you continue to meet their unending demands for money or do you go to the other extreme and follow a “tough-love” approach, cutting off all contact with them until they straighten up? Offering to pay for treatment, when they are ready, is a good start—assuming the treatment is one of the more effective options, rather than the standard, in our opinion, ineffectual, offerings of the AA/12-step/Minnesota Model.