When I was looking for love, I often dated up to three guys simultaneously.I wasn't trying to hit some number in the Guinness Book of World Records.Once you have an unspoken date on Saturday night (you both just already know you'll have plans with each other), you have moved into the first phase of a relationship.I point this out because within the first few dates with one man, you shouldn't allow yourself to feel so emotionally attached that seeing someone else would be a problem.Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates.As their search for love heats up, suddenly there are a multiple men who are interested in them and they don't know how to handle it.
So many of my clients ask me whether dating more than one man at a time is a wise idea.This is very different than dating more than one person long-term.Let me explain what I mean by "dating." From my perspective as a dating coach, dating entails only the first four to ten dates.Remember, until you're in an exclusive relationship where this status has been discussed and agreed on, you are free to seek out other partners.
Since there was no way to know who would stick around, I dated as many guys as I was interested in at the same time.That's why I'm an advocate for "volume dating."I dated 30 men in 15 months in order to eventually meet my husband.