Tayser Abuhamdeh doesn’t have what most people would call an exciting job. “Eventually I started opening up, saying random things, telling jokes and laughing at my own jokes.He works behind the counter at a deli in Brooklyn, a small shop that does a brisk business in snacks, coffee, and cigarettes. I started to act like people were there watching, and that’s when they showed up.” Abuhamdeh’s routine was subtle.But here are some sexting guidelines to follow if you can’t be dissuaded from clicking ‘send’ but you want to keep your friends and family from seeing you at your undignified worst on a triple-X site. Very cheeky, but this is a great way to get a persistent guy – or girl – off your back.
There’s a reason why Live Person messaging agents outperform voice agents.An intuitive workspace featuring real-time reporting, enables agents to handle multiple conversations with efficiency, intelligence, and care.In June of last year, on a whim and mostly out of boredom, Abuhamdeh mounted his phone next to the register and began to broadcast his day on You Now, a live streaming service. People would walk up and pay, he would ring them up, and then as they left, nail them with a zinger spoken to the camera. But I was nervous, I felt like there were people watching. It was weird.” After a few weeks of broadcasting he began to find his rhythm.
They call it ‘outing’, and it can be devastating for the victim (and later the disgraced ‘outer’ who is generally despised by all who are aware of his/her actions – good luck finding a new partner). Before you send a photo, think to yourself: would I be happy with everyone I know seeing this? When in doubt, picture a beloved grandparent’s face if they saw the photo. We’d never normally advocate being a tease, but when it comes to sexting it’s a surprisingly effective and enticing way to spice up the exchange without compromising your dignity. An embarrassingly identifiable The Only Way Is Essex duvet cover or an exotic fraying wall-hanging from your gap year? Your best bet is to look away from the camera, as if you’ve seen something cool and interesting out of shot. But if you have distinctive moles or tattoos then, seriously, don’t bother.
As a specific practice, ‘outing’ is not inherently illegal (unless the participant is a minor, in which case it’s so illegal you may as well put your prison uniform on and sign the sex offenders’ register today), but hacking/stealing photos, distribution of pornography, harassment and blackmail all are, so many cases do end up in court. If it’s a heart-attack face, delete and don’t send. Send an image of a stockinged leg or a strategically posed partial nude. These things will make it much harder to deny to friends and family that it’s you in the picture. Dirty laundry on the floor and an overflowing bin are not sexy.