If something makes you uncomfortable or you aren’t really sure where you stand, speak up. Unless you’re in a one night kind of relationship, this automatically translates to exclusivity.Whether or not either of you abides by that is another argument entirely.They don’t always prearrange dates; expect to get a few last minute calls asking for your company.Their dates aren’t always one-on-one; expect a good amount of those calls I mentioned (especially at first) to include the company of some friends. In the UK and US it’s not uncommon to date a couple of people at the same time and get to know them before you decide if you want to pursue a serious relationship with one of them and get rid of the rest. During this “get to know you” period, you may kiss one or more of your suitors just to test the waters or move things past the “just friends” label.What this means for you: I mentioned before that French people don’t generally have “the talk” where the prospective couple decides if they want to be exclusive, so how do you know if you and your Parisian paramour are BF and GF? This doesn’t really happen in French dating culture.
Luckily you do; otherwise you wouldn’t be here, right?
So if you find yourself having a hard time understanding his culture’s idea of “l’amour”, not to worry, I’m here to help. No, probably not, but as a country France is pretty flirty.
What this means for you: Culture isn’t always an excuse.
Don’t accept all behaviors just because you think it might be a cultural difference.
While I usually don’t subscribe to most stereotypes, there are always a few that are true enough to merit their labels. Playful—but always polite—conversations can be had between friends, between strangers, and even between married men and women with people who aren’t their significant other (gasp! In other cultures this may raise a few eyebrows, and tempers, but in France it’s just a conversation, there’s no strings attached. It’s more complicated than that, but that’s the most concise way I can think to put it.While in the US and the UK “dating” is seen as a series of meetings that adheres to certain rules and protocols—waiting the proper amount of time before calling someone, arranging a date, wait appropriate number of dates before initiating appropriate amount of intimacy—before the time comes to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk, the French tend to have a more laid back attitude.