But when researchers Barbara Barron-Tieger and Paul Tieger studied the personality type of several hundred couples, they found that the more type preferences a couple had in common, the more satisfied they were with their communication.
While opposites may attract, it seems to be easier to maintain a relationship with someone who is similar to yourself.
However, this does not mean that you must find your exact type in order to build a good relationship.
In fact, the most common pairing is between two people with just two type preferences in common (for instance, ISTP with ESTJ).
Many researchers have set out to answer this question.
In order to classify their subjects’ differences, compatibility researchers often use personality typing.
He’s logical, she’s emotional; he’s from Mars, she’s from Venus.
Much is made of the idea that opposites attract, and we all know at least one of these “odd couples” that makes a relationship work despite major differences. And more importantly, what makes for the most successful relationship—a stimulating opposite or a comforting soulmate?
He’s orderly and fastidious, while she leaves milk on the counter and clothes on the floor.Researchers have also found that some type preferences are more important than others when determining compatibility, and that some types are especially likely to clash.In a 1981 study, researcher Ruth Sherman found that differences on the Extraversion/Introversion scale caused the most conflict in long-term relationships.The 16-type system developed by Isabel Briggs Myers is the most commonly used system of personality type in the world, and provides an easy-to-understand basis for studies on compatibility.
The 16-type system asserts that our fundamental differences in thinking, making decisions, and organizing our lives can be understood by measuring our preferences in four key areas: When researchers have analyzed couples’ satisfaction, the factors most associated with happy couples were those that we’ve heard all along: good communication, common values and interests, and the ability to work out disagreements calmly and openly.In particular, combinations of Extraverted women with Introverted men caused frustration, perhaps because this dynamic goes against our traditional concept of the man being the more expressive and dominant partner.