When suggesting when asked out that we meet for coffee I was told that is so American. For guys last call at the pub means last chance to talk to a girl before you get chucked out and have to go home alone. They want a rich, successful, beautiful, smart trophy wife who isn’t demanding and is good in bed.They tend to get drunk, sleep together, then ask the girl out for dinner…. Unless it is last call (and/or 8 pints later) British guys are not likely to approach you. They expect her to meet a man who is rich (family money), doctor or phd in hard science/maths, and Chinese. Your description of the English way of dating is so true!!We’re not all as shallow and checklist-y as this unfortunate group you encountered.In a city where the single girl to guy ratio is 2:1 and there’s beautiful people everywhere, it’s a single guy’s playground. And, thank you: you proved my point – dating in New York is a whole different game. LLG @LLG: I have to agree with @jamie I’m not American (I’m Canadian) and come from a place where people tend to be less materialistic because there isn’t a lot of money.They also don’t pay for dinner, even on the first date, and are famous for standing up dates because they’re hungover. @American: Sadly all too true of both English girls and boys of a certain type. I think the extremes of both American and British dating are equally unappealling (though “British dating” is something of an oxymoron).
I prefer the UK version which was, when I was there: Get drinks, get complimented randomly by cute boy. Meet boy for brunchy things Go home Make decision after.Versus going to bars, scoping out prey, meeting for drinks then getting passive-aggressive emails. I believe you happened upon one very specific type of NY girl at this dinner Birds of a feather, darling.