I think often times when friends become lovers, the dating phase is skipped over because you know each other well enough that the “first date” often feels more like the fifteenth.Assumptions are made and important questions aren’t asked because, well, things are blurry.You have more to lose with this person than another person that you have no history with and will never see again.”“If you are going to become lovers, then start a relationship like you normally would: date her,” Nicole recommends.“The courting period is important and now you can ask more meaningful questions about what she wants for her future, etc.”I definitely agree with this point.But, if you’re serious about her, and her feelings, then you’ll move slowly.“The woman feeling that she is being courted is important,” says Nicole.“It’s important that she feels special and that you break your friendship routine and take her out on dates.Ask her the same questions you would if you were on a real date.If you absolutely must be certain about her feelings, then be direct.
Remember the whole When Harry Met Sally adage that tells us men and women can’t be friends because the sex part gets in the way? “Ask certain questions to feel out if she is interested,” says Nicole. ‘What kind of girl do you think would be good for me?
Nicole recommends testing the waters at first and asking your gal pal for some relationship advice to see if she bites.