The premise is simple; the practice, revolutionary."It's easier when you have a script to follow - that is, 'You're a guy, you have to do the work here,' " Lewis says. To increase my odds of going on a date, I developed a thrillingly distracting Tinder habit.In debates with his single female friends who waited for men to make the first move, the Bay Area native noted, "Probably precisely the type of guy you're interested in meeting would love to have a confident, attractive woman come up to him and make the first move." But Mr. Like the So Ma-based app Down, Tinder is one of a number of digital platforms that allows users to look for love (or lust) while standing in line or riding a bus - not sitting in front of a computer.Despite loads of single men, getting a date is a no-man's land. "I'd forgotten what it was like to be flirted with," says Kink and Code blogger Emma Mc Gowan, 27, who noticed it during a recent visit to New York."I can't get over how reflexively men flirt in New York." Forget flirting; it sometimes seems as if guys don't see gals, period. It's easy to blame smartphones for replacing the normalcy of spontaneous face-to-face interaction. ' " my friend texted on a recent Tuesday while I was riding BART. For the past week, I realized, I had been too busy living "The Bachelorette." I'd been juggling guys and dates in a refreshing whirlwind of activity that, until recently, had been entirely foreign since I'd re-entered the singles scene almost a year ago. Census data show there are more single men than single women under 65 (though in San Francisco that doesn't necessarily mean single men who want to meet women).
After a 30-second setup that pulls photos and basic stats from a user's Facebook profile, users scroll other Tinderites filtered by age, gender and geographic proximity.
With each profile, you can see shared friends and interests, browse photos and swipe left for "no," right for "yes." When two people say "yes" to each other, the magic happens: You're given the power to chat.