More often, dating doozies result from failure to recognize - or simply accept - the different ways men and women approach relationships.
Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).
Women who share intimate details of their lives and emotions too soon come across as desperate and neurotic.
As a dating coach I've been privileged to help other women recognize and break free of self-defeating patterns and habits that have kept them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.
The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).
So here goes: authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider emphasize this point as the most important.
While there are always exceptions, the women I coach who are struggling with boyfriends who won't commit or husbands who ignore them almost invariably made the first contact.
A man may date and even marry a woman who approached him first, but there will likely be consequences later on..he approaches the girl he really wants. Quick Fix: If you talked him first or even asked him out, you can try to restore some of the feminine mystique and you forfeited as the initiator by being a bit more elusive - a little less available, a little more mysterious.