But if you take away who we are as people, what remains is our differing positions in life; I’m a single mother and he’s a childless dude.
It’s a huge disparity that can create a lot of discord without the right level of understanding.
I invest everything in my child and, at the end of the day, I’ve run out of gas. I have to get a babysitter and schedule how long I can be out and when I need to return. But do you know how happy I am when I get that alone time with you? To me, it’s like a romantic getaway, a mini-vacation.
If love is about putting in the effort to understand one another, then it’s my duty to express who I am and what I feel.
Through this exercise, I put together a few guidelines for dating a single mom. I have my child with me most of the time, and the joy that comes from that is a true blessing.
Sometimes I feel pangs of jealousy when I see conventional families with a mother and a father. If I am going to be with you, I want you to fuel me in some way. It’s not that I can’t be strong on my own, but everyone deserves fulfilling companionship. That doesn’t mean we have to have candlelit dinners or climb a mountain every time we’re together.
It must be nice to share these experiences with the one other person who contributed in making your child. Even if I have a village of wonderful people to help me, I am the only person that can be the . I want to be with someone who makes me feel alive and makes my time worthwhile. It means that we have to make our time together a priority. I do not have the luxury of dropping what I’m doing and heading out.
At the same time, I’m taking on the responsibility, that naturally, two people should share.
I put in everything I’ve got- physically and emotionally- so he never has to feel like he’s missing a parent. Time with you = Time away from my kid which means you better make sure it is worth it.