While earning my MBA degree at Harvard Business School, I learned that “exit interviews” were a smart business tactic.When an employee is leaving his job, a manager asks him for candid feedback about the company.You may have a recurring pattern of which you are completely unaware that is sabotaging your budding relationships.As a dating coach and matchmaker, I’ve spent the past ten years conducting some very unconventional dating research using a business concept called “exit interviews.” Yup, that’s right: I called up your former dates and asked them what really happened when things didn’t work out.
So I interviewed over 1,000 single men and women to ask why they had initial interest in your online profile but then suddenly vanished, or why first dates didn’t lead to second dates.
Okay, I know what you’re going to say—it’s what everyone says initially: “I’d rather die than have you interview my ex-dates!
This process reveals crucial insights to empower managers to get better results next time.
I thought: why not try this tactic in the dating world?
” But let’s face it: we live in a feedback culture today.
From customer reviews, to e Bay and Trip Advisor ratings, to viewer voting on “American Idol,” to automated telephone recordings that warn “This call may be recorded for training purposes,” feedback is normal in every other part of our lives.