Meanwhile, his significant other can sense his worry, but may not be able to put her proverbial finger on the issue, which results in a disconnection and lack of understanding.
She might think he is being distant, cheating, uninterested or worse. Money is a huge issue, but it isn't only about cash, it what the cash represents: Self-value (what he believes he's worth), perceived value (by the world, by a superior, by his family, by his family of origin), security (for himself, for his family), flexibility (lifestyle, providing for his family), achievement (self and in the eyes of others) and future considerations (college for kids, retirement, weddings, vacations). Pay the bills — all the bills — together, regardless of who makes what paycheck.
However, since men are unlikely to share their feelings, the silent anxiety affects their relationships in untold ways.
The man wants to solve, push through or dispel his fears, but he doesn't want to admit them to others.
Perhaps you were with a cheater, a liar, someone who put you down or ignored you, and you are having a hard time trusting again.
You stayed in that relationship for many reasons—if you had kids, you were probably concerned about how a split might affect them.
Maybe you had financial fears about being on your own.Or you didn’t leave because of low self-esteem, thinking you’d never find love anyway, so why leave? But the benefits of being with the right person are well worth the risk.