E-mailing or texting works well when things are going smoothly in a relationship.
But that stuff can get us into trouble when things are less positive, because the chance for miscommunication is much greater.
Here's what she had to say: Don't communicate electronically if... Wait until you reach a point when you are positive he'll be happy to hear from you.
Till then, try to keep the communication to a minimum.
The book discusses the ways that technology has enabled us to do anything anywhere — and in the process has helped to make our bosses expect us to do everything, all the time, no matter where we might be.
What's more, being constantly "connected" to the Internet often means we're disconnected from our real lives: It's easy to feel like we're in touch with plenty of friends through social networking sites, and at the same time to feel a deep emotional void because commenting on someone's status update is not the same as enjoying a good conversation with them over dinner — and giving an electronic thumbs-up is nothing like a proper hug. Turkle have any tips about when we e-mail or text to communicate with a guy we've recently started seeing? In other words, don't send an email about some news article you thought was interesting, or asking some irrelevant question, when what you're really doing is trying to ask: Hey, why haven't I heard from you? Can you give me a better clue about what you're thinking? You're not positive that the guy you're dating will be happy to receive your email or text.
What's more, emails are often ambiguous, and an ambiguous email from someone with whom you are having an ambiguous relationship can cause anxiety.
You know how when you first start dating someone, the emailing can be the best — and worst — part of the whole thing?
He writes such funny, smart, adorable notes that you forward them to half a dozen of your friends (and your wacky Aunt Nell in Minnesota because, hey, you've owed her a phone call for months and you want to throw the poor woman a bone).