For whatever reason, it flamed out, but you're not happy about it. Type C: You met a guy who was nice, but you weren't interested. Personally, I only see ONE of these situations that would allow for a friend of yours to date the man in question -- Type C. These types of codes were much more clear when I lived in large cities.Maybe you went on a few dates, but then you decided to end it. I feel this way because I've known a few people in my life who have gone on to marry someone that a friend of hers dated at some point -- when there were no hurt feelings or confusion about the topic. Now that I live in a small town where there are only so many fish, I see a lot more crossover with Types A and B. And things like Girl Codes usually keep these events from happening -- especially if the girl has disclosed personal information about painful events that happened in the relationship to her friend.But many times, it's much more black and white: Since I've been told both of these things, it's often hard for me to gauge whether or not my "call" is right about certain topics, such as the Girl Code.Things that I think are obvious yes or no situations are sometimes the complete opposite of what other people are thinking. But I'm extremely curious as to what other people think about this, so I'm going for it.) Type A: You were in a long-term relationship with a man, and you talked to your girlfriends about what this man meant to you, how he helped or hurt you, and they were there through the whole thing and when it painfully ended.Type B: You were never in a long-term relationship with this man, but you thought about it.Usually, I don't care what other people think about my opinion of a topic. The most amazing women I've met in the last 5 years have all come from the Internet. In order to comment on Blog Her.com, you'll need to be logged in.
Most of these women are from the sock-hop generation, when people actually danced around in socks and were modest and virginal at all times. This creates a lot of hurt and feelings of betrayal. If something wackadoo happened and Person A's best friend fell in love with Person B and it was real and good and true and beautiful, that's one thing. But the last time I saw that whole "love at first sight relationship" thing was a looooong time ago. To use my own life as an example, usually, my girlfriends don't like my ex-boyfriends at all because they are on Team Blondie.It's a little different here in 2011, but Type C can definitely still happen. I think if you are a true, good friend to someone, you would never consider hooking up with or dating one of their exes. I don't need everyone to be on Team Blondie, but it feels good to know who my real friends are.