(The book's publisher, Hazelden, operates treatment centers across the U.
S.) The title references those in Alcoholics Anonymous, who often call themselves "Friends of Bill W.," in reference to Bill Wilson, the co-founder of AA.
This can be detrimental if they've never stepped outside themselves and noticed their own behaviors. Codependency and enabling can be bad for relationships.
Q: How do you recognize if you're being codependent or enabling?
I would change my likes and dislikes according to my boyfriend's preferences. Enabling can happen by either ignoring a situation or stepping in too much.
A: If you have certain boundaries you realize are being crossed, that's a sign of codependency.Another one is if you start to change yourself in order to be with that person.For some, discovering that your new love interest is in recovery for alcoholism or drug addiction might be a red flag. When she first started dating a man in recovery, she welcomed the challenge to be by his side on his path to sobriety.But as their relationship evolved, Nagy desperately wanted advice from someone who had walked in her shoes.
Nagy offers her own experiences dating men in recovery and shares stories of couples embarking on the 12 steps together. Q: Do you believe certain types of people are drawn to those in recovery?The Tribune recently spoke to her by phone about her new book. Q: What common misconceptions about people in recovery do you dispel? A: I think people who come from addictive families are used to the patterns they see in people in recovery.