But then you find out the details: he has the scarlet “S” emblazoned on him — separated. ” As I discuss in , a separated man is still legally married, but from a relationship perspective, he and his wife are split up and no longer a couple.He’s in a gray area: not really married anymore, but not divorced either. Yes, you can date him as long as he’s living separately from his spouse and no longer involved with her.When online dating, some will label themselves as “divorced.” This is a huge mistake on their part.I most often run into people dating while separated when they're separated themselves and involved with someone else who's separated too.A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.Relationships have gotten really complicated these days.With people marrying less and divorcing more, it's no wonder that the opportunity, and challenge, of dating while separated has become pretty commonplace.Decide wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.
However, having said that, dating separated men is very, very risky.
Of all the clients I’ve worked with over 8 years, the most troubled and pained ones are women dating men who are still getting divorced. Separated men know that their Scarlett “S” isn’t a chick magnet, so it isn’t uncommon for them to avoid divulging the truth right away.