For me, this has equated to a life-time pursuit of dialogue with my children in and around God’s greater purpose for our lives.It has and continues to be a two-way conversation around what it means for God to be glorified in and through our lives as we become less and Christ becomes more, i.e. If we begin with pleasing God as our foundation within all of our relationships, it is hard to stray too far away from His will and/or His Word.I recently shared with my older children (17, 20 & 22) that most marriages are defiled before the man or woman have a chance to say, “I do.” In one prominent online study on dating, over 80% of the respondents indicated that they would consent to sex prior to marriage.This same study revealed that most couples would move in together prior to their wedding day.Within God’s will is always a direct path toward God’s glory ("Sanctify them by the truth; Your Word is truth" John ).As parents, we need to re-position dating back on a pathway that anchors our teens and adult children to God's ways.It was also noted in this study that dads as well as moms had little influence when it came to who their children dated.
However, by God’s grace, there is a growing movement to raise our next generation of adults with a more God-focused model when it comes to pre-marriage relationships between the opposite sexes. Our public schools attempt to teach character development and reinforce “good” morals apart from any absolutes of right and wrong.Once we removed the Bible as the basis and/or standard of our conduct, we were left with the shifting sands of man's own wisdom. Senate prayer when he said, "...unless we stand for something, we shall fall for anything." As a result, our young people of today embrace a worldview that is more secular than biblical and more me-centered than God-centered.Our youth’s views on dating have just followed this same pathway.Yet, as parents, we can help our children get back on a God-honoring path when it comes to dating.
In the process, we’ve lost our True North (God's Truth). This equates to a philosophy of life that looks to oneself or the “norms” of society to define what is acceptable and what is not-acceptable.Notice I did not say what is “right or wrong,” as the principles of right and wrong are no longer valid without absolute morals to establish their foundational basis, and our children get this point all too well.