As a first generation Chinese American, I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, a major hub for multitudes of Asians and Asian Americans.
I had always understood certain facets of everyday life as norms since most of my peers were like me and grew up in households like mine.
As such, I always feared the chance of disapproval when my love interests deviated from that of dating the ideal Chinese doctor.
Despite descending from a country so massive, people with Chinese heritage still share a common culture and value system that rings true with many other Asian cultures.
The importance of family, honor, and hard work are reflected in all aspects of life, including romantic relationships and dating.
Below, you will find a guide in the form of a table to interpreting "signs" in how a guy asks a girl out on a date and his actions during and after the date.
A term commonly used among girls to describe men with a knack for courtship is “细心" (translated: careful, attentive, meticulous) and I think this is very much the case. S., I think girls talk about guys who are "sensitive" but it’s not quite the same thing.
I never attributed tenets as simple as honoring and respecting elders, especially parents, to my ethnic upbringing.
I found the following table on Renren as a guide to dating and after looking at it: I concluded that what’s easy to do is also easy not to do.
From parental pressures to societal stereotypes, get a first hand perspective on Chinese dating in America right here!