We live in a white supremacist society that promotes a racialized and gendered hierarchy.
So, as Black queer men, we have male privilege that largely provides us with protection from things like the gender-based violence women face every day.
We live in a world where white women with voluptuous butts, baby hair, and cornrows are being praised while Black women and other women of color are routinely criticized and ridiculed for those same features or cultural staples.
Being gay meant feeling like I had no one left to talk to, so I turned to media and porn for examples because there were no public models of Black queer love.
Hearing how I decry respectability politics and seek to dismantle white supremacy, many people wonder how I began dating white men in the first place.
Mainstream media depictions of gay life like Will & Grace left out my narrative, yet I faithfully watched because it made me feel less alone.
Living in an anti-Black world, it is easy to internalize these sentiments from a very young age and begin to hate different aspects of ourselves.Society tells us that ‘white is right,’ not just in terms of intellect, but also in terms of beauty and anything else you can think of.