You’ll also get the odd comment from racists who just want to tell you how much they don’t like your skin.
One of the most telling incidents occured more than a year ago when a friend was using online dating site OKCupid.
Any non-white person who has online dated will know that race always comes into it.
Even if you don’t explicitly mention it, your inbox will inevitably contain messages from people fetishising your colour.
Last week, she received what, to me, is an explicitly racist message.
Christian Rudder, the site’s co-founder, says: “OKCupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be.
If anything, racial bias has intensified a bit.” A close friend, Sarah, is living proof of this.
[sic] Obviously you don’t have the same level of education.
A man messaged her, telling her how attractive he thought her “Latino tan” was.
When she pointed out that she was actually Indian, and naturally brown, he stopped replying immediately.