Does your body ever register fear when your partner erupts? Bring the issue to light through calm, assertive conversations when you’re both in a and see if the issue can be remedied.If you are answering ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you may need to take a step back from the situation to observe your partner’s patterns. If you discover it can not, removing yourself from the relationship may be the best thing for your mental and spiritual well-being, as well as your physical safety.Relationships can make us want to explain away or even deny uneasy feelings, but these red flags should never be ignored.Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s the frequency and severity of your partner’s reactions that should act as a guide for your concerns.If your partner seems to keep you compartmentalized from certain areas of their life, this might be a red flag for dishonesty.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the excitement of something new, we lose sight of what’s best and healthy for our lives.This can mean overdoing it with an exercise regimen or diet, it can mean missing important details about a new job; and it can most certainly relate to our relationships.Pay attention to the direction your partner’s anger is directed. Are you expected to absorb the negativity, even if you had nothing to do with the situation?Are you often blamed for your partner’s horrible mood?
Expressing anger, even by yelling, can release tension, frustration and pain—if done in a safe manner; but it should not be used as a method of control in any situation.
Using anger to instill fear in another is unacceptable behavior in any relationship.